“Which is why our ability to influence others is so much more important that our ability to control them: we’re always exerting influence simply by being who we are, saying what we say, and doing what we do.”
“Nothing can encourage us like someone else’s good example “
What better service can you provide someone else besides being a good example to them?
We often hear and read: “People never change” ” Don’t try to change me”
Of course we change! We change all the time and it is due to the plasticity of our brains. It is a good thing to evolve, to grow.
We become more like our partners, is that good or bad?…….well depends on what kind of partner you chose. Any interaction with human beings and of course our life experiences change us. Most importantly, we can change ourselves.
Certain psychotherapies, for example, cognitive behavior therapy ….influences brain connections through learning and enhanced attentional processing.
‘ Gaslighting also happens in the workplace. “A gaslighting colleague might whisper abuse when they walk by your desk, sabotage your work or take credit for it, give wrong times for meetings, ridicule you in front of others,” says Sarkis. And when it comes to political leaders, there can be no better example than Trump.’
So how do gaslighters learn their craft? Do they know they’re doing it?
‘Gaslighting is a technique that undermines your entire perception of reality. When someone is gaslighting you, you often second-guess yourself, your memories and your perceptions. Most of the time after communicating with the person gaslighting you, you are left feeling dazed, confused, and wondering what is wrong with you.1‘
‘Anyone is susceptible to gaslighting, and it is a common technique of abusers, dictators, narcissists, and cult leaders. It is done slowly, so the victim doesn’t realize how much they’ve been brainwashed.’
“I have no special talent. I am only passionately curious,” says Albert Einstein.
The curious case of curiosity and its intrinsic link to a happier existence
“At the basic level, of course, curiosity promotes an openness to unfamiliar experiences and information. Curious people ask questions, they read more and, in doing so, significantly broaden their horizons. At a minimum that has a huge impact on the way we learn and remember” Read more: